... the FACTS

Born: Bucyrus, OH

Resides: Lakewood, OH 

Birth date: 3-22-76

Sign: Aries

Height: 5’9”

Weight: 175 lbs.

Hair: Brown

Eyes: Blue

Status: Never married, no children

Want children: Undecided

Nonsmoker

Education: Master’s of Education - specialization in recreation and leisure.

Occupation: Inspirational Comedian/ Professional Speaker / YouTube Sensation (Evolution of Dance).  

"I travel around the world giving presentations, keynotes, workshops and various other types of programs on a variety of topics. I combine comedy and content in order to help people remember what I talk about."

In The Works: His book, Might As Well Dance will be out January '09.

... on HIMSELF

Strengths: "What I think is my best quality is a giving nature. I always tell my friends and my family, my success is everyone else's success, my good fortune is everyone else's good fortune. So I very much like to give and do nice things for other people and include other people when something good happens to me, I like to include as many people as possible and allow that goodness to spread to them. I'm very, very outgoing. I'm really good at being a chameleon and I can blend into whatever surroundings I'm put in. I have no problem talking to anyone anywhere anytime."

Others may not see: "I don't think there's too much. I pretty much would say that most people learn everything about me well I guess I shouldn't say that - one thing that I know people would be surprised is kind of like a financial standpoint, a lot of people think that I'm really I shouldn't say obsessed about money but I buy a lot of different things, a lot of toys but I'm also still extremely frugal with my money. I don't just buy things on a whim, I research things and I actually give a lot of money away both to my family members, friends and various charities and organizations. You can make very, very good money. I have more than I need."

I've been known to ... "be the life of the party."

Interests: "I'm a big sports fan so I actually play baseball still during the summer. I go to a lot of games here in Cleveland, a lot of Indian games. So I'm really a big sports fan all the way around. I'm also a pretty avid reader, I read probably close to 75-100 books a year. A little bit of everything. I try to mix and mingle self help/ psychology/professional books that help in what I do with everything from James Patterson, Lee Child, I just started reading Stephanie Meyer. All the harry potter books, I read those like the day they came out. Entertaining, so having friends and family members over and doing fun things. I like skiing, I like to stay very active and do all sorts of different activities. I actually have a wave runner so I live in Cleveland by the lake, and go skiing at least once a year if not a couple times a year in Colorado and places like that."

Turn-ons: "Good intelligent conversation. I'm always turned on by people doing something that they love and trying to make money off of it or trying to earn a career from it. And then the other big thing is just people who know who they are and are comfortable with that."

Turn-offs: "People who aren't true to themselves and try to be someone or something that they're not. People who are elites, downgrading to other people for whatever reason, whether it's financial, social. The biggest thing is I'm not a big fan of complaining in life completely and totally. I have no problem, I think there's a very big differential between venting and complaining. Venting to me is a natural outlet, everybody vents, we all have days that everything just is wrong and that's totally and completely fine. Everyone needs to vent. But complaining I think is the continuation of venting. You go past getting something off your chest and you just become so focused on whatever wrong you think happened that it compasses everything that you do. So complainers really bother me." 

Special Talents: "Besides the dancing, I'm actually really handy around the house. I spent about 12 yrs painting houses and doing all the other things that come with painting houses, fixing things, building things. I actually enjoy cooking when I have the time. I would almost say like almost domestic skills. I've tried to play instruments and I really have very little music ability, I can't sing on key to save my life. Comedy."

Charities: "I've done a lot of work with an organization called Bacchus and Gamma. They're a peer education network for college students. I was involved with it when I was in college and it's actually where I got some of my first speaking experience. I've done a couple different scholarships for their national conference, have been a speaker at different things and I've done things along those lines. Sometimes money, sometimes services."

Spirituality: "Spirituality is one of my big things that I enjoy reading a lot about as well. I believe a lot in spirituality but less in religion. I would say it's a non denominational spirituality. I do a lot of journaling on a normal basis and I still do a good amount of writing."

Fashion sense: "I'm very comfortable. I would much rather wear something that is comfortable than ... I'm really fortunate that I get to wear whatever I want to wear and so when I speak I always wear jeans and a T-shirt and part of that is because I want in my first few minutes on stage I want the audience to relax and so when they see me dressed in jeans and T-shirt, it totally relaxes, they go ok well this isn't going to be some stuffy power point presentation or someone preaching to me in a suit from a pulpit. But the rest of the time, I wear very comfortable clothes. I'm definitely more casual."

Staying healthy: "I try to remain health conscious, like anyone else I go through the same battles and struggles and the same peaks and valleys. But overall, I try to remain, I have to remain in at least some semblance of shape just from a performance standpoint. I'm usually 5 tines a week."

What touches my soul: "The biggest things are expressions of love in various ways. When people love someone else in all different types of love and the way they choose to express that. For some people, it's screaming it at the top of their lungs to everyone who will listen, for other people it's tiny little things. I really think it's always interesting when you find something out about someone that you never knew."

... on WOMEN

I first notice ... "usually smile and eyes. I like big smiles, expressive faces and I'm a sucker for big bright eyes."

Attention-getters: "Confidence, most people will always claim that confidence is one of the most attractive things. So someone who's just having fun, you can just tell they're comfortable where ever they're at, and whatever they're doing. Doesn't have this look of ok I'm better than you are, why should I ever talk to you? A confidence without overconfidence or confidence without cockiness."

Ideal woman: "Independence is a must because I'm not around all the time. And I think independence comes from a sense of self assurance. I'm not a very free giver of compliments, in that I don't shower people with compliments. I try to give compliments as much as possible but I also try to make them so that they're truthful and meaningful and not just words that are being spoken with an emptiness behind them. That's where the self assurance and things like that really come into play. Good conversationalist, somebody who can talk about a wide range of things, from the mundane and the latest celebrity gossip to the most influential people over the last 100 years, not really politics but have a worldly vision, understand that there's a world much larger than the tiny circle of life that they're leading. Good personality, good sense of humor, that's always a big must for me. And someone who can fit in in a variety of social settings."

I can't resist a woman who ... "laughs often, is beautiful but doesn’t know it, has enough athletic ability to throw a ball, catch a pass, or shoot some hoops."

Most important quality in a woman: "Sense of humor because I have a pretty good sense of humor and I see almost everything in life we get angry about we ended up laughing about. Almost everything in life we've ever been frustrated about we end up laughing about and the better your sense of humor the quicker you usually get to that point in life. And so you're able to let go of a lot of the things that really bog people down from an emotional standpoint and you can laugh about them. So when someone has a really good sense of humor, they find the funny in everyday life. Laughter is such a powerful thing and as people get older they laugh less and less and less every day."

Is that a fact: "Oh yeah absolutely. The average child laughs around 300 times a day,  the average adult around 15."

Why is that: "There's so many different reasons but there really isn't any good one. The biggest thing is as you get older you have more responsibilities, and the more responsibility, the more worry you have. But that's kind of a cop out in the same way because the older you get the more of life you've experienced and therefore you should have multiple things to laugh about."

And also I guess it's all a matter of your perspective: "Absolutely 100% is."

Do you walk the talk as well: "Yes, I try. You know it's funny some of the things I joke about in my show especially with adults is letting go of things you can't control. One example that I use where I see it an awful thought are airplanes. People get really upset with delays or cancellations and they're frustration, they're yelling at people, they're venting and I'm always just like listen I don't want to fly if there's a problem with the airplane ... and it never fails ...  I try very hard to never give any advice that I don't follow myself."

Ideal date: "My favorite dates of all time are ones with good conversation. There's a book called The Book of Questions which I've used a couple times on second or third dates, not first dates. I think that's always great because it lends itself to a lot of conversation and you actually really get to find out who that person is. Nothing's more frustrating then when you meet someone, and you're attracted, things go well on your first couple dates then all of a sudden something comes up and you're like wow, I never would have thought that you would think that way. And it's one your big must haves and they totally are the opposite way. And so when it's good is when you have conversations about a wide range of things, you know you can kind of get a feel for how a person really is. Anything that's fun. I'm a big fan of games, like a David & busters, something along those lines where you're just kind of playing some games with each other but there's also some fun and some activity involved."

I'd call a woman back after a first date ... "if she's someone I wanted to find more about."

I'd never date a woman who ... "asked me what kind of car I drive. who cared about what kind of car I drive. I bought a car specifically to be able to haul a wave runner and that was pretty much the only reason I bought it. I like it and I'll drive it until it drops. My toys are more smaller medium priced like electronic things. I actually, honestly I really like buying experiences. For example I bought a charity thing through the Grammy's and I haven't got to go yet but it's called the Blue Man Group experience ... So for me spending money for something like that is really a no brainer if I can afford it, I mean I would never put myself in a bad situation but it's something that I'll never forget and it can't be broken, it can't be lost, while I can't hold it in my hand, it's a memory that I'll be able to carry with me through the rest of my life."

How I show I care: "With the right woman, yes. In fact that's one of the things that I can use as a gauge as to whether or not I really like somebody as to whether or not I want to do romantic things for her. My big idea of romance is simply unexpected things at unexpected times. So you do things that are kind of out of the ordinary or that would be unexpected. Flowers on their birthday or valentine's day you know that's expected, and you still do those things bc you don't want to upset anyone. But you find little tiny ways, little notes here or there, sending an email or a message at random times, kind of doing the opposite of what everyone else does, you know right now everyone sends emails so maybe sending a handwritten letter. And little things like that."

What makes a woman unforgettable: "In all honesty, there's probably only been three women that I've ever dated or been involved with that I look back and think that's someone that I can see continuing to grow into a better relationship. I've never parted ways in a bad place, like I don't ever feel that I've done something to someone or treated someone so badly that they have a bad thought of me. So when I look at what those 3 women have in common, I think the biggest one was I got along with them great conversationally wise. Like I'm not a big phone talker, I'm a very much alpha male when it comes to the phone. Answer our questions, let's get the information taken care of and then let's get off. But when I do know that I like someone I can sit around and talk with them for a long period of time. And so for me that's why conversation is such an important thing and they were all good communicators too. They communicated what they were feeling, how things were affecting them, they wouldn't hold things in, they wouldn't hold things back, they wouldn't just assume that I knew something. That and I think just a love for life. I look at all 3 of them and they all enjoyed doing things and they all appreciated life."

I wish women understood ... " "The biggest thing that I wish women understood about men is that a very large percentage of us never intend to upset you on purpose. And that before you jump to conclusions ... I just wish that people in general, to be quite honest with you and women as well can just take a step back and look at the motive, the actions, and the motivation behind it to see if someone is really doing something that is malice on purpose. Most men's intentions are good. It stinks because there are men out there who are just purposely trying to sleep with someone. Any advice at all, I would say learn to love yourself first. I would say learn to love yourself and be happy with yourself that a relationship and another person will never complete you, it will only compliment you. If you believe that a relationship will complete you, that means that you're incomplete without the relationship. So another person can make you a better person, another person can take your life to a whole other level, but you don't have to have that other person. If you truly love yourself, you won't sell yourself short and I think there's so many men and women in this world who would rather be in a bad relationship than no relationship at all."

One thing a woman has never done for me yet, but I would love it: "I've never had a woman really ask me out, like flat out come up and just be like hey. I've never had someone out of the blue introduce themselves and ask me to do something."

... on RELATIONSHIPS 

Do you want to be married one day: "Yeah, I would love to, I would honestly I definitely have a little bit of a heartthrob romantic at heart. I would love to walk into a room one day, see someone and just go that's it. To have that Hollywood story, so to say, you hear it every once in awhile. Or to go out on a date or two with someone and be like this is the person I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. I would love to be able to say that. I haven't found that person yet. I would love to be married and I would love to have a family. My family is fantastic I have a nephew and two nieces and they're fabulous and wonderful and I can with 100% say I would love to have children one day if I can find the right person to have children with."

What I love most about being in a relationship: "I think the biggest thing and this really holds true with all relationships. It's someone who you can share with ... the best thing about a relationship is knowing that there's someone who loves you no matter who you are and what you did. One of the great things that I love about my parents is my parents would accept us no matter what we did. If we messed up royally my parents would still love us no matter what, they might not be happy with us, they may be angry but the point is they would still love us."

Top relationship keys:  "Trust. I think trust is first and foremost. Good communication skills, the same spiritual belief or a very similar belief system from a spirituality standpoint. And then I think a willingness to almost try, like I always hate when people just do the same thing over and over and over again. So I think it's great in relationships when people try new things together bc they can grow together vs sometimes if I already do something and I teach you how to do it that's a different dynamic then if you and  I go do something completely new together. You know you grow together when you learn something new vs I'm not going to get any better or anything new but I'm going to teach you, so there's almost this hierarchy there. The ability to communicate effectively both with yourself about things and with that other person."

A woman in a relationship with me can expect ... "I try to be caring and compassionate but I'll be the first to admit that sometimes my practical analytical side wins out over the compassionate side. I'm a great listener. I will listen to the ends of the earth when people have problems or issues and I try not to jump in and be a "problem solver." I like to help people come to their own conclusions and maybe give them some perspective on things. I do try to be romantic, I mean I try very hard to make sure that that person knows that they're the one that I want to be with, that they're the one that I care about more than everybody else."
 
What I expect: "I try to have very little expectations. That's one of the other things I really I kind of harp on people about. My understanding and belief is that happiness stems from the results divided by our expectations. So when you don't have really high expectations then you're happy with whatever results you have. Now that doesn't mean there aren't certain things that definitely go without saying. But I try not to put too much expectations on relationships. I would expect someone to be considerate and kind. I would expect someone to do what they say they're going to do. I mean I expect that actually of all everyone that I know. I'm a big fan of the fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. And if someone says something but does something differently, I will never expect the, I trust everyone instantly, until there's a reason not to trust them. But once there's a reason not to trust them, it's hard for me to trust someone again."

What makes me feel close to a woman: "The more I tell people the closer I feel to them. I kind of hold it back a lot of what's going on in my life. I don't tell everyone everything. So when I am in a relationship with someone that's one of the ways that I know that I do care because I do want to tell them about things and I do feel that I want to share those things."

Greatest relationship lesson: "That it's possible to be very good friends with someone and just come to the realization that they're not the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with and be able to talk about that and discuss that in a way that doesn't make either of you feel miserable. Just because someone's a great person doesn't just mean they're the great person for you. And that you can let someone know that in a way that won't, I mean obviously it can be upsetting but that it won't make them hate you, despise you or think that you're an asshole..."

What makes a woman marriage material: "I think I would know if I could take someone on the road with me and not get tired of them. Since I get to spend so much limited time with people, I find myself sometimes, when I'm home and I'm spending time with someone I'm dating, like thinking to myself, ok you know what I actually really don't want to go over and spend time with them. And so when I do find someone that I feel when I get home and I'm excited to go see them and I'm excited to spend time with them, that's when I know that I'm really interested in someone. And so when I can think to myself, when I would change what I do or I would be willing to change what I do and somehow maybe figure out a way to stop being on the road nearly as much and figure out a way to make things easier, that's when I think I would know. Yeah, I think it's just a feeing I would have."

... on SEX 

What makes sex good: "I think when you have, to me laughter is a great, sex is a funny thing overall, it really kind of is, in a just general standpoint, sex and intimate acts and all those things and they're fantastic and they're wonderful and they're expressive and they're great and everything feels good physically and emotionally but when you also can enjoy that laughter in the bedroom, I mean, I think that's what makes it so great. Is when you feel so comfortable with someone that ... like you always think about when you were younger and if you were kissing someone and you like knocked teeth, like everyone just kind pf paused and no one said anything, either one of you, you're just kind of like ok did that happen, can we just not talk about that but when you're really comfortable with someone, like you can just laugh about that and be like that was hilarious, that was funny."

I feel my sexiest when ... "I'm making someone laugh."

Most sensual part of a woman's body: "Probably the most sensual part is either the back of the neck and the shoulder line or the small of a woman's back."

Sexiest thing a woman can wear in private: "They're all usually pretty sexy when they're in private. Well, honestly, probably a man's dress shirt. Preferably mine."

Surefire way to seduce me: "Hmm, I think anticipation is always a great thing. So when you talk about something or you send a letter or  note about something that's going to happen later, I think that's always a great way."

... on LIFE

Making my mark: "I feel like I'm just starting to. My ultimate goal is to leave, and I guess I should say when I say I've started to, I've been fortunate that I have, you know my goal literally is just to help people have a better life, is to make people's lives better, not on a permanent basis, you know no one can ever do that, they can only do that themselves but my greatest compliment that I can receive is when someone sends me an email or someone says something and is just hey thanks for brightening my day or thanks for making me smile, thanks for making me laugh and that's first and foremost. And then my favorite thing is when people say thanks a lot I really appreciate that, you really make me think. So that's why I do what I do and the way that I do it because those are my two favorite things to do. If I can leave a body of work of some sort whether it's books, whether it's a dance routine, whether it's a DVD or video of me speaking that when I'm gone, people will still be able to look at, people will still be able to read, and people will still be able to watch and it will still have the same affect on them."

"I still have a lot of mail that I've never even been able to respond to. When everything was crazy, there were some days I would get 7 or 800 emails. I still not been able to sift thru a couple thousand of emails. Almost all of them are just hey I love your dancing, that's great. I would have people call me and want me to come dance at their weddings or want the music mix so they could perform it themselves at their wedding. Or some were to inquire about speaking, some were definitely down and dirty, love the way you move your hips, would love to have you in bed, you know stuff like that. Well, you just have to laugh at. I had grandmas sending me pictures of their granddaughters, mothers sending me pictures of their daughters, friends sending me pictures of their friends."

Were you in shock, was it gradually or was it just an overnight sensation kind of thing? "What really happened was it was over the course of a weekend back in May when I was kind of awakened to this event happening, this whole viral event  ..."

Responsibility to society: "Yes, I believe that we all have a responsibility and I feel that, again, I feel that I've been given gifts and talents and I think when we have these gifts and talents, whatever they may be that it is part of our responsibility to the world to share those gifts and talents as much as possible."

Valuable life lesson: "I really am a big fan of a guy named William James who was one of the first psychologists, basically and he has a great quote and it basically is We do not laugh because we are happy, we are happy because we laugh. And his other one, I mean the two quotes of his that I really like kind of helped me create my show and it's the greatest discovery of mankind is that one can change their life by changing their attitude."

Do you know why most people seem to be not happy: "Well, I think the biggest reason is because people don't spend enough time looking at happiness, they really don't. You'll hear all the different quotes and all the different people talk about happiness is not a destination, it's a journey, you know you just don't find happiness. But most people, a lot of people, don't even feel that they deserve to be happy and we're taught our whole lives growing up, don't be selfish, do things for others, sacrifice and all these things. When in reality we should all learn to be a little selfish. My sister recently went through a divorce and basically finally woke up and said I cannot believe I've been in this marriage for this long when I've been so unhappy. And it was kind of an eye opener for her that it doesn't make choices easier, it doesn't make doing something like that easy but when you're doing something to help make yourself happy, nobody can really get angry at you or should be able to get angry at you. Now unfortunately so many people look for short term happiness, they look for something that's going to make me happy right now and don't realize that that happiness might be gone after a little bit. You know you look at people who are promiscuous on a normal basis or jump into relationships very, very quickly because they think it's going to make them happy, they're doing it because they believe it's gong to make them happy, and it does for a short time frame but because there's something missing there or there's something else that's not happening, they're not really happy in the long run. Or people who use drugs and alcohol for the short term thing is because they believe it's going to make them happy but it's really just keep adding fuel to whatever is wrong. Depending on our own personalities and how we view the world, you know some people are nurturers by nature and so when they're in a bad relationship, they think well I can nurture this person back to where they were or it's just we're going through a rough patch right now. And that's the hardest thing, you know nobody's relationship is perfect but sometimes there comes a point when you start to realize ok we're getting in fights over the exact same thing over and over and over again. When you say I'm going to change, you say I'm not going to do that anymore."

I must ... "travel more. I want to go to the great barrier reef, one my goals in life is I want to host Saturday Night Live, I don't think that's ever probably going to happen but that's always been one of my goals since I was very, very young. Or I would really just say be on Saturday Night Live because if I get a little tiny guest appearance that might be enough for me. And I would love to visit all 7 wonders of the modern world."

Best advice received: "Actually I love that question, that's one of my favorite questions to ask people. I think it's great because I ask that one and I ask what's the best piece of advice you've ever given. The best piece of advice I've ever been given and I mean I have to be 100% honest was when of my friends who was a speaker said you have to do something that no one else does. You have to find a way to separate yourself from the rest of the pack, to find your hook, your thing. And that's what led me to create the evolution of dance. To make your mark, you've got to think of something differently, you've got to do something so unique and different and great that people will remember you for that."

Best advice I've given a woman: "One of the greatest emails I ever received ever and it was early on in my career and it definitely really helped me feel that I was doing the right thing. I was talking to a middle school group and I was talking to some students and I was doing my thing and I was talking about choices and how other people's choices sometimes hurt us but it's not our fault. And a lot of times in life when somebody else does something, makes a bad choice and we end up getting hurt because of it, we almost sometimes will take blame. Like we will feel like there was something we could have dome differently and I got an email from a young girl, who was maybe 13 or 14 at the time and basically just said I was at your thing today, I didn't want to go, like all school assemblies I thought it was going to be boring and stupid and I listened and she said it really helped me because I just recently was taken away from my parents by child services because my parents are drug addicts and I really felt for so long that it was my fault, that maybe there was something I could do to not make them want to do drugs and she said listening to your speech and hearing what you said and thinking about it, I really am beginning to see that it's not my fault and that I can't let what they've done influence my life. That I can do better, I can be better because I have the choice to make different choices."

... on HIS FAVORITE THINGS

Movie: "It’s a Wonderful Life."

TV Show: "Lost, Heroes."

Book: "The Way of the Peaceful Warrior."

Music: "I have an eclectic wide range taste – my all-time favorite group is Live."

Food: "Best meal ever – Steaks on the grill, corn on the cob, a Corona and watermelon for dessert."
 
... final THOUGHTS

Wheels: "Whatever gets me there..."

Pets: "None – unless you include my invisible friends then I have 5. I was just joking - I can only answer serious stuff for so long. I can't really have any pets because I travel."

Tattoos/piercings: "None that I am aware of but there are places on my body that I rarely look at."
 
Always in my refrigerator: "Vlasic Kosher whole dill pickles, blueberries, bottled water."

Hottest possession: "My favorite thing is, it's called a mega touch. It's a touch screen and it has all those different games on it, like quiz games, photo hunt, I have one of those in my house. And it's so much fun because people come over, whenever we have parties or when people are over, we'll just sit and play it and we'll all gather around, we'll play, and it's just a ton of fun."

I'd change places for 24 hours with ... "Grady Sizemore, he's on the Cleveland Indians. I love playing baseball and my fondest memories. And I think to be able to pay at that level, a professional athlete or a rock star or a celebrity, to have that talent and to be looked at with that kind of awe inspiring look I think would be something that would be very great to be able to experience and then being able to play professional baseball - to have that level of athleticism."

I'd most like to hang out with ... "this is going to sound funny, I used to hate this person and the more I see them and the more I watch him the more I realize he is so talented and when you look at him he just has fun. Justin Timberlake. He doesn't take himself too seriously, he's very smart, he's very smart about what he does and how he does things so you know he's intelligent. But you also can just tell he has a joy, like he just looks like a guy that would be fun to hang out with. A lot of celebrities nowadays, they take themselves way too seriously and he just looks like a guy that would be comfortable sitting in a backyard barbeque where nobody knew who he was And he would just be having fun. But he would have to bring Jessica Biel with him too. That would be a requirement."

Celeb I'd love to take on a date: "Oohh, It's a close race between her and Jessica Alba. Jessica Biel, I just think, and you never know, but everything I've ever seen or read about her, same type of thing, she's just kind of a laid back fun individual that really enjoys life and doesn't take herself too seriously. And I think Jessica Alba's the same way. I mean they're both obviously incredibly attractive. Neither one of them seems to parlay their attractiveness. They don't sat yes I'm attractive and you know that I am too."

Why I'm a great catch: "Well, I think the biggest thing is I feel that I have a lot to offer in all areas of life, emotionally, spiritually, socially, physically. And that I bring a lot of stability to the table. I'm the type of person you don't really need to worry about me and I try to do all that I can to let people, when I'm with someone to make sure that she doesn't worry. You know I am on the road and that's something that people often would have a bad connotation with ... I can always honestly tell very quickly if a girl says things like oh you're going on the road, you probably have girls all over the place. I know that that girl, at that point in her life, doesn't have enough self assurance for me to date her. Because I'm not going to spend all my time when I'm on the road telling her that I miss her and I wish I was with her and no I'm not talking to anyone else here. I feel I bring stability to a relationship and a lot of the things that women worry about in relationships I feel they don't have to worry about that one when I'm with them. Financially I'm stable, I have a career, I have a passion, I'm motivated."

Are you funny all the time: "I have the ability to turn it off and on. If I'm dating someone and they  need some cheering up, I can be funny and I can be lively and jovial but if we're talking about a serious issue, I'm not going to try to dance around it by using comedy as ... some people are sarcastic all the time and they can never be serious. I can do both."

Me in a word: "I would use the word, one of my friends described me as this and I've always loved that he did, he called me an enigma. I would say an enigma."