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BETHANY
... the FACTS
Born: Dewitt, Michigan
Resides: Nashville, TN 37209
Birth date: 7-17-81
Sign: Cancer
Height: 5’8"
Weight: 145 lbs.
Hair: Blonde
Eyes: Blue
Family: 1 brother who is 24 and lives in Wyoming
Status: Never married, no children
Want children: Yes
Nonsmoker
Education: Associates degree
Occupation: Registered Nurse in the pediatric
oncology/hematology unit
... on HERSELF
Strengths: "Patience in the elderly and children and
compassion for people in hardships."
Weakness: "Patience for myself."
Others may not see: "I show lot of my inside on the
outside, when people know me there is not much I hide. But I
guess what people may not see is how I try to keep things
simple and not to make a crisis out of something that is not
and if a crisis is bound to happen to not have fear and how
I simply try to let things go into the hands of God and
trust in him."
I've been known to ... "be a horrible driver and sing
with all my heart and soul even when I don’t know the
words."
Interests: "I love doing anything outside. I love being
on the water (especially in northern Michigan), riding on
Harleys, and bonfires. I just really enjoy when I am with
friends and family just hanging out canoeing or playing ping
pong. I also enjoy reading and I do a lot of writing
and meditation. I enjoy traveling and experiencing new
things, and I love listening to people's experiences and
life stories. I also want to learn how to kite board."
Turn ons: "Kindness, sensitivity maybe not as a quality
that everyone sees in him but that he shows to me, also
someone who is tolerant of the elderly and children. I
also am a sucker for a man in a white T-shirt, and a man who
has those muscles that are around his hips that are very
defined. And someone with a strong faith in God."
Turn offs: "Someone who bites their fingernails,
smokes, no knowledge of self, poor boundaries, and someone
who wants material things to the point where they do not
live in their financial means."
Special Talents: "I don’t have anything that really
stands out. What I am good at is listening, compassion,
relating to people, empathy. I can throw a pretty good
football and cook some killer brownies from scratch."
Charities: "Max It Out and I volunteered for a cancer
camp in Michigan for 3 summers called Camp Quality."
15 minutes of fame: "I don’t have 15 minutes of fame
but I would not trade that for the hugs and the things I
learn from the children with cancer that I have been blessed
to meet."
Travels: "I have been to Jamaica where I helped to do
service work and New Orleans for the same reason, and I
usually go to California once a year to see a friend, and
home to Michigan to see family and get back to the beautiful
Michigan lakes."
Spirituality: "I am a Christian, my faith is very
important to me. It is important to me as a person to
continue to grow, and my faith helps me to do that, also it
makes me more capable to love myself and in that I learn how
to love someone else better, learning to love the way God
does. It makes my life light, it opens me to more
opportunities because it makes me more tolerant of people,
it brings me to more experiences than I could even dream of
creating on my own, and that makes my life so rich."
Fashion sense: "I love clothes, I like to shop, but it
is important for me to not try to live outside of my
financial means, and also keeping it simple helps me to
remember my worth is not in the clothes I wear and I am
reminded of this daily with the kids I take care of who most
have no hair or some are blind. But I do love a great pair
of jeans and a simple sexy white T-shirt. If I have a
special event or evening out, I really enjoy dressing classy
and simple, I enjoy very feminine clothing. But also
love being in a baseball hat and hoodie. And I love
having an excuse to buy a great dress and pair of high
heels."
Staying healthy: "I enjoy running, yoga, working out,
but I love to get outside. What I have been doing the most
of lately is hiking."
What touches my soul: "People with positive attitudes
despite hardship. I love hearing stories about people who
have overcome hard experiences and addictions, forgiveness,
the elderly and sick children."
... on MEN
Attention-getters: "Looking me in the eyes and
listening."
Ideal man: "I desire someone who I feel a chemistry
with, that unexplainable feeling in the air that you just
can’t explain, someone who is not afraid to call me on my
shit, also someone who I can call them on theirs, someone
who has a faith in God. I could list all this attributes but
sometimes God has a clearer vision than me and sees
something in a man that I would need that I might not know,
so basically my ideal man is someone who I just need to know
that God would want me to be with, ya know things just need
to connect."
I can't resist a man who ... "is good with the elderly
and children, on a Harley, in a white T-shirt, and I also
just love it when I guy is just laid back in lounging
clothes just hanging around the house."
Most important quality in a man: "Faith in God,
faithfulness to me."
Ideal date: "This is a hard one for me to just give a
standard answer. I think my idea of an ideal date changes as
a relationship progresses, things I would like to do on a
date are either me or him cooking dinner at either one of
our places, with candles lit and music on and then sitting
by the fireplace drinking wine and talking, maybe a slow
dance in the living room. Other dates I would like to go on
is to a baseball game, on the lake with friends and him
boating and water skiing, on a Harley ride, or helping the
community together in some way."
What makes me want to see a man again after a first date:
"As I have gotten older I am less judgmental of people,
so I usually will see a man on a second date if they are
interested, because not all the time can you get a feeling
for someone on the first date, but for me it has to do if I
get a strong sense that it is just not going to work, it is
sort of an intuition thing that I would not see a guy again
or if he is rude, or tries to cross boundaries."
I'd never date a man who ... "is married."
How I show I care: "I love to cook and that would
probably be the first thing I would do, I also like to
listen and pay attention to the little things a man might
say that he would be surprised I remembered, and then do
something for him that is about what he said. Also allowing
myself to open up to him and be vulnerable to him."
What makes a man unforgettable: "In all the
relationships I have had I remember the guy and certain
things about them, I don’t really think I forget people
that have crossed paths with my life, at least I try not to,
and I don’t want to either, I learn so much even from the
people I should forget, but maybe forgetting them would mean
I would have to learn some lessons over again and I
wouldn’t want that. But a guy who is kind is not easy
for me to forget."
I wish men understood ... "that not all women are the
same."
One thing a man has never done for me yet: "Stuck
around consistently especially when they or supposed to but
also when they don’t need to but are there just because it
is where they want to be."
... on RELATIONSHIPS
On relationship/marriage: "When I am in a
relationship with someone I am fully committed, marriage is
something that I desire very much, and faithfulness is very
important to me. In a relationship, it is very important to
remember to be playful with each other and take days to just
rest and do nothing but be with each other. As far as
marriage, I see it less as two people becoming one and more
as two people deciding to share two separate individualities
with each other."
Top relationship keys: "Knowing yourself, and being
able to take care of yourself, knowing how and when you need
to take care of yourself, and also being able to ask for
what you need, and if your partner can’t give it to you,
to not take it personal and find a different alternative to
find help with that situation, and with that I don’t mean
as far as sex or looking to another man. Also being able to
stop in the middle of life when it can get busy and realize
sometimes the priority is to show up for your husband and
family."
A man in a relationship with me can expect ...
"honesty, and that I won’t try to fix problems for
him, what I will do is stand beside him and hold the space
with him in support and love. I love being close to someone
I am in a relationship with, good cooking, and lots of
passion."
What I expect: "Someone to be honest with me, and a man
able to stand by me in difficult situations in faith and
hold the space with me, foot rubs, back rubs, baths,
faithfulness, and someone who doesn’t look for outside
things to fill him up like drugs or possessions."
When I'm in love, I ... "glow, I feel have more energy,
and have more motivation."
What makes me feel close to a man: "I feel close to a
man when they open up to me, when they let me into their
thoughts, fears, regrets, grief, dreams, when they trust me
with information that not everyone knows, they tell me the
truth even if they think I may not like it or it might hurt.
Also if we are at a party and are in separate areas in a
room and he gives me a look, or when we walk into a room he
is holding my hand or will keep his hand on the small of my
back."
Greatest relationship lesson: "Don’t lose yourself in
it."
What makes a man marriage material: "Similar views in
faith as me, someone who will call me on my shit, and
someone who is humble enough to listen to me when I call him
on their shit, good with kids."
... on SEX
What makes sex good: "I think first you just plain have
to have chemistry, being very close physically and
emotionally. I also think sex is good when you treat it as a
gift that you are giving to the other person. There are a
lot of different things that make sex good like creativity
and spontaneity but what I stated above is important no
matter what for me."
I feel my sexiest when ... "I just get out of the
shower, I am clean, with lotion on, and am in underwear and
just a tank top in bed with a cool breeze blowing in the
window. Or standing in the kitchen in my tank top and
underwear fixing breakfast or eating a few bites of
ice-cream right out of the carton. I also feel sexy in
a great dress and high heels at a wedding, dancing."
Most sensual part of a man's body: "There is not one
part of a man's body I dislike, the sensual part is how he
uses it to touch me and how he responds when I touch
him."
Sexiest thing a man can wear in private: "White
T-shirt, nothing, or boxer briefs."
Surefire way to seduce me: "Come on now, there is no
way I am giving this one away, this is all part of the fun
of dating and getting to know someone, but I am sure he’ll
figure it, I’ll let him know."
... on LIFE
Making my mark: "I am still young and still figuring
this out, one way is by living above societies values, being
a faithful wife, and a good mother, by being an example of
forgiveness, tolerance, compassion, having balance in my
life, and being an example of living a simple life with a
lot of goodness in it. I want to continue to work either
with children, elderly, people facing death in their life,
or people struggling with eating disorders or addictions,
how this will all play out I don’t know but what I desire
is to do it all with balance and my first priority being my
faith and family."
Responsibility to society: "To grow as a person and let
it start with me."
Valuable life lesson: "Be good to yourself, know
yourself, know your limits."
Going green: "In everything in my life I try to stay
away from extremes and I think you can go to extremes being
green that is not for me right now, but I do try to unplug
appliances when I am not using them, instead of buying tea
from Starbucks and having the waste of the cup I make tea at
home, I use a water filter instead of the waste of bottled
water, little things like that."
One thing I can't live without: "The Bible."
I must ... "Ideally I would like to have a cottage on a
lake in northern Michigan, if not there, somewhere on the
water, I would like to go to India or Australia, and I
don’t know truthfully I have already done and met so many
more people then I ever thought and I am only 27."
Best advice received: "Be good to yourself."
Best advice I've given a man: "When I have told them
that the worth is not in the things they have accomplished
or things they have, but that it is inside them and that is
more then enough."
... on HER FAVORITE THINGS
Movie: "Oh there are so many I loved River Runs Through
It, The Ultimate Gift, Steel Magnolias, Indecent Proposal,
Unfaithful, When A Man Loves A Woman, Martian Child, Bella.
I really love movies and old movies also like The Sting, A
Star is Born, The Way We Were."
TV Show: "I don’t watch a lot of TV but I do enjoy
the Food Channel, Travel Channel, CSI, Criminal Minds, and
Women’s Murder Club."
Book: "The Old Man and the Sea, Broken, Secret Life of
Bees, and Walk On."
Music: "I love a lot of different music I enjoy Van
Morrison, James Taylor, Tom Petty, Seal, I like country,
some hip hop, old music, Dave Matthews."
Food: "There is not much food I don’t like but I
really like to cook and eat anything that is fresh and
homemade. I love fruit and dark chocolate."
... final THOUGHTS
Wheels: "The car I have now which is a grand am which
it is my favorite because it is almost paid off."
Pets: "I don’t have any but someday a golden
retriever."
Tattoos/piercings: "Just my ears."
Always in my refrigerator: "Strawberries, iced tea,
water, and dark chocolate in the freezer."
Hottest possession: "Bible."
I'd change places for 24 hours with ... "Nicole Kidman
because I would like to be able just for a day to shop at
the places she does and to visit Australia."
I'd most like to hang out with ... "Well, first my
family and friends on the lake in Michigan but celeb I would
like to hang out with is Morgan Freeman and Robert Redford.
I would love to sit on a porch out west with them and listen
to their experiences, stories, and advice."
Celeb I'd love to go on a date with: "Oh probably Keith
Urban because I would love to sit in the kitchen in the
morning in a white button down shirt drinking tea, reading a
book while he strums some tune on his guitar."
Why I'm a great catch: "Because I am willing, I am
willing to grow, willing to learn how to love better,
willing to forgive, I am compassionate and passionate, and I
have faith that gives me strength and ability to recognize
that I am never alone. And it doesn’t hurt that I am a
great kisser."
Me in a word: "I am sitting here trying to find one
word ... I just can’t … real, true, playful,
present."
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