... the FACTS 

Born:  Baltimore, Maryland

Resides: Catonsville, Md.

Birth date: 6-23-49

Sign: Cancer

Height:  5'11"

Weight: 190 lbs

Hair: Salt & Pepper

Eyes: Blue

Status: Divorced, 18 year old son named Ryder

Want children: Undecided. In the right situation, I would consider it.

Engaged before: Twice

Nonsmoker 

Education: Bachelor's Degree - B.A. in American History

Occupation: Technical headhunter / model.

Acting credits: Play a doctor in the upcoming flick The Visiting with Nicole Kidman; a businessman in the upcoming feature The Walker with Woody Harrelson; a detective on HBO's The Wire. Currently appearing in a regional TV commercial for race tracks/slots.

... on HIMSELF

Strengths: "Honest, high integrity, dependable, personable. I do what I say ... always."

Weakness: "Chocolate."

Others may not see: "I'm very intuitive and spiritual. I can read people very quickly. I think because of my life experiences and the meditation, I'm able to listen to people clearly and understand them and often understand their point of view even though I may not agree with it. I have the calmness to hear some people and to listen to them. To be a good recruiter you have to do that and to be a good lover you have to. You have to listen and be attentive. And listen to nuances in the conversation. Where men will be explicit in their conversation, I've found especially women will give signals and parables and hints so you have to listen and really tune in."

I've been known to ... "not to be impetuous. Will think out and consider first. I don't really do anything spur of the moment necessarily. I try to be practical about it. I try not to open my mouth and/or make a decision when I'm tired and/or angry. I find it's much better if you have time to gather your thoughts and gather the information and then make your decision or your comment. Sometimes you don't, you have to go with it, that's when your intuition comes in."

Interests: "Sports, especially baseball. Football, snow skiing, weight training and running meditation."

Turn-ons: "Attractive women, good movies, great concerts - rock to classical, being outside and active, sports cars."

Turn-offs: "Sarcasm and dishonesty." 

Special Talents: "I play keyboards in a successful part-time pop-rock group called Appaloosa. This band's been together for 35 years. I've been playing now for 40 years. Play 2-3 times a month. Played full time the first 11 years. I also play and coach baseball, ride motorcycles, act and model."

Travels: "A lot of U.S., some Canada and South America."

Spirituality: "I believe in God and reincarnation. We don't get one shot, we get many shots. And each life is like a grade in school. There are things to do to progress. No one comes into your life by accident. Everything is designed, there are no coincidences, I don't believe. Each person comes into your life for specific reasons, maybe sometimes very small and sometimes very dramatic, it just depends."

Fashion sense: "Practical and comfortable with style. I'm more of a jeans guy."

Staying healthy: "Try to avoid process foods and eat organic when possible. Work out moderately and daily. Practice meditation. I'm 56 but I still think of myself as 36. I take care of myself. I'm open and reasonable, I think it's kept me young."

What touches my soul: "Healthy and happy children. I like children a lot. I wish I had more."

... on WOMEN 

I first notice ... "how she holds herself … a walk, an attitude and her eyes. I really can read people really quick, even body language."

Attention-getters: "Be open and balanced. I like when a woman flirts and stares at you, and gives a little smile. It's not real overt but it's kind of like `I'm interested, whatcha' going to do?' I kinda like that. I don't care for the little games. I like a woman, if she's interested, she kinda let's you know, but subtly. It's like `OK I made my move, now it's yours.' That's kinda cool."

Ideal woman: "Fit, attractive, intelligent, good personality, possess integrity, self assured and have a subtle air of sensuality." Independent. If someone's a little selfish or materialistic, it's a super turn off for me, I don't care how pretty they are. Of course I'm human, looks mean a lot but chemistry's everything. A quiet sensuality is a real turn on. Not overdone but definitely comfortable with their bodies. A good heart."

I can't resist a woman who ... "is quiet and sensual, who has a quiet sensuality, more like a softness."

Most important quality in a woman: "Openness and honesty. If something's bugging them or if it's something they like, let's hear about it. Just open communication is very important, not just in man/woman relationships but almost anything. Communication and information, then you can tackle the problem, then you know what you're dealing with. If there's games being played, your hands are tied if you really want to try to fix this or whatever, to move forward."

Ideal date: "Depends on the chemistry of our encounter … at first, something laid back to have good conversation between us. Later on, things that we both like while sharing in each others' worlds. I'm pretty simplistic. I think the first date or two is kinda quiet, laid back, where good conversation and interaction can take place and then the rest kind of falls into place. If you got too much going, you really can't get a handle on what they really like and what their personality is. I think the first date is to get acquainted."  

I'd call a woman back after a first date ... "if the chemistry was good between us. We both will know if that is happening."

I would never date a woman who ... "is married."

How I show I care: "Enter and show interest in her world. A healthy relationship is you still have your own space that we all need, but we still will interact without smothering each other and show interest in each others things as best as we can. " 

What makes a woman unforgettable: "Does what she says and … a wonderful kiss."

I wish women understood ... "our need for competition and that elusive term 'male bonding.'"

... on RELATIONSHIPS

On relationship: "When a relationship is working, there's nothing better. Everything seems to shine. You can't have a good relationship until you have your own house in order. You can't love someone else until you love yourself first - there's some truth to that. A good relationship is two people who are comfortable with themselves, who have their own act together and then they meld together into each other's world, that's a good relationship. A relationship is very important to me. I think it's a natural setting. We're not meant to be alone. When a relationship's clicking, there's nothing sweeter. And everything is sweet. When a relationship's not clicking, it's one of the worst things there is. I respect the goodness of a solid relationship."

Top relationship keys: "Open communication and honesty are vital."

A woman in a relationship with me can expect ... "a man who appreciates a good woman. Respect, honesty, faithfulness, a lot of fun and smiling."
  
What I expect: "Openness with a reasonable and balanced attitude."

When I'm in love, I ... "am very happy, more alive and taking on the day much more upbeat." 

What makes me feel close to a woman: "Sharing of intimate thoughts and experiences. Open communication, that leads to great intimacy. Because intimacy is total giving and how can one give or receive that if there isn't openness in actions and communication."

Greatest relationship lesson: "Two things: Have open communication. Before one can commit to a strong relationship, they have to have their own house in order first."

What makes a woman marriage material: "Emotionally available and has dealt with her past setbacks and bad experiences. She has come to terms with herself.  The obvious too, hot behind closed doors would be nice. I need the whole package."

... on SEX  

What makes sex good: "Great chemistry between the two."

I feel my sexiest when ... "I'm with an exciting woman."

Most sensual part of a woman's body: "Legs and hips."

Sexiest thing a woman can wear in private: "Victoria Secrets has got it down pat (smile)."

Surefire way to seduce me: "A great kiss and touch. Of course there's a lot more but that's a great start."

... on LIFE

Making my mark on the world: "Be kind and understanding to others."

Responsibility to society: "Vote for the right people." 

Valuable life lesson: "Never say something or make a decision when tired and/or angry."

I must ... "make sure my son is prepared for life as a man,  don't abuse the trust given to me and be happy."

Best advice received: "Always listen carefully to what someone is saying."

Best advice I've given a woman: "Be happy with yourself before committing to a relationship."

... on HIS FAVORITE THINGS

Movie: "Depends on my mood. Love a well done flick, enjoy action, historical, drama and comedy. Hombre with Paul Newman."

TV Show: "CSI."

Book: "Too many to list. I read casually, I'm not really an avid reader. I'll read a lot of action and fiction and mystery. Bait and Switch."

Music: "Pop Rock."

Food: "A good steak."

... final THOUGHTS

Pets: "A wonderful mixed breed male dog (collie and a husky) named Cusky."

Always in my refrigerator: "Coffee and half & half."

Hottest possession: "My sports car."

I would change places for 24 hours with ... "a successful professional baseball player. I love baseball. Brooks Robinson is a pretty neat guy. He's touted to be the greatest 3rd baseman there ever was. He plays for the Baltimore Orioles. I've met him before, he's a real gentleman."

I would most like to hang out with ... "George Clooney. I like his ambiance. I get the feeling that he and I would hit it off. He seems like a down-to-earth guy and he has the ability to laugh at himself, he doesn't take himself too seriously. That shows a man who's comfortable with himself, who's self-confident."

Celeb I'd love to take on a date: "Angelina Jolie - that is one sensual woman. She's given a kid an unbelievable break in life."

Why I'm such a great catch: "Available emotionally and physically with a great deal to offer."

Me in a word: "Dependable."