... the FACTS

Born: Woonsocket, Rhode Island

Resides: Tampa, Florida

Birthdate: 11-3-64

Sign: Scorpio

Height: 5'5"

Weight: 133 lbs.

Hair: Auburn

Eyes: Hazel green

Status: Never married, no children

Want children: Undecided).

Nonsmoker, light drinker, No drugs

... on HERSELF

Strengths: "Integrity and honesty."

Weakness: "Grouchy when not enough sleep or woken up too early. I don't handle being tired well."

I've been known to ... "be spontaneous at times, but it's not my nature. I'm a planner. I once hopped a plane to Reno NV just to see Nine Inch Nails play in concert. I stayed at the Hilton. I didn't leave the hotel for 3 days until I had to fly back home."

Interests: "Reading, music, concerts, the beach. I'm a water baby! Travel, learning foreign languages, dining out to different places, wine. I'm a 1970's nostalgic fanatic - give me the hustle, David Cassidy, and mood rings again! Flea markets, carnivals, fairs, movies, art gallery shows. I am open to almost anything."

Turn ons: "A nice smile, manners, a man who smells good. I'm into hands, so I like a man to take care of his hands - no rough mitts for me! Good sense of humor is a must! Calling when you say you will."

Turn offs: "Bad teeth and breath, rudeness - especially towards service industry workers, chronic lateness and too many white lies. And not calling when you say you will."

Special talents: "Hmm - If I'm sitting on the floor with my knees bent, I can balance a coffee mug on my knees while watching TV if  that counts as a talent - LOL!"

Awards: "None that I can recall, a couple in high school for being in the concert choir. Oh - I was awarded badges while in the Girl Scouts - I think they are a great institution. I love the cookies!"

Charities: "I try to give to the needy when I can by volunteering."

15 minutes of fame: "When unbeknownst to me, my picture was in US Today regarding a Christmas service for JonBenet Ramsey while I was in Boulder Colorado."

Travels: "To celebrate my 40th, I flew to Europe visiting Paris, Switzerland, and Rome where I saw my first opera on my birthday. Visiting Europe was the time of my life! I want to go again! I've also been to Cancun and Jamaica."

Religion: "I believe in God and pray regularly. I was raised Roman Catholic, but I don't attend church regularly but I love to go to midnight Christmas Mass - It's so beautiful with all the candles lit."

Fashion sense: "I like wearing all types of clothing. Being a retro nut, I enjoy retro fashions. I like to read Vogue and magazines that show what's hip in the now."

Staying healthy: "I enjoy walking and dancing to keep in shape. I have weights that I use when I'm watching TV. I have Turbo Jam too that I'm trying to be more dedicated in using. I like to bike when I can use one and roller blading."

What touches my soul: "Hmm - a beautiful sunset. a hearty laugh, a look of genuine love in someone's eyes. A soulful gospel choir."

... on MEN

Attention-getters: "A nice smile, being mannered - I dislike the "player approach," being well dressed - I dislike the backward hat thing and the baggy pants. Showing genuine interest in me."

Ideal man: "Someone who knows what he wants and is honest and up front with me. No game playing. I value honesty and I have respect for someone who can be. I also value intelligence. Not necessarily pompous but I have a keen mind and I want someone I can relate to on different things. I can be opinionated at times."
 
I can't resist a man ... "with green eyes! I have a thing about them - hazel eyes like mine also get me - and a nice smile."

Most important quality: "Honesty."

Ideal date: "Hmm - I usually like to go to dinner, but I'm open for something fun and different like an amusement park or maybe a art gallery show opening. I like to do different things."

I'd want to see a man again after a first date ... "if we get along and things seem to clink and he asked to see me again, yes I would go on a second date."

I'd never date a man who ... "was rude or nasty to people, or cruel to animals or would make fun of handicapped or people in need. Or a bad tipper to service industry workers."

How  I show I care: "I may pay attention to his likes and dislikes. For example, if I know he likes to drink Sprite soda, I know to have some around. I also may tell him that if he needs to talk or share anything with me, I'm all ears and it will remain between him and I."

What makes a man unforgettable: "To me, probably surprising me in a good way which doesn't happen too often, which would make me not forget him! lol."

I wish men understood ... "we say what we mean and mean what we say, or at least I do."

One thing a man has never done for me yet, but I would love it:: "Ask me to marry him! And tell me I make him want to be a better man!"

... on RELATIONSHIPS

On marriage/relationships: "They are hard work to maintain. People need to be honest and really communicate needs in the beginning. And work as a team - It's 100%/100%. A lot of divorces could be prevented if they would have done that - talk about everything - sex, money, kids, work, household chores, religion, in-laws, etc. before they get married or move in together. I envy people who can make it to the 50, 60 and even 70 year mark and still love each other even more than they did when they first got married. Romance needs to be kept alive. I wish there were more marriages like that today! I hope I have one of them someday."

Top relationship keys: "To me, it has to be total acceptance of the other person. No one is perfect and even though you may not like certain things about your partner, you must accept them or if you can't then that person is not the one for you."

A man in a relationship with me can expect ...  "total honesty and consideration, support and understanding - of course I expect that for me as well. I am a believer in the give and take equally."

What I expect: "Hmm, that's a tough one because I've been told (more than once) that my standards are too high, but I feel I can expect understanding, unconditional acceptance, honesty and putting in efforts for something important to the other one (i.e.: making a holiday or birthday meaningful, for example. Also, communication is important. I also know, that I can be expected to adhere to these rules as well - lol!"

When I'm in love, I ... "smile a lot more!"

What makes me feel close to a man: "When we have mutual understandings that we "get" each other."

Greatest relationship lesson: "You can't change the other person no matter how much you want to. It won't happen. They must change themselves. What you see is what you get - be careful what you wish for."

What makes a man marriage material: "Compatibly, willingness to commit in the marriage, devotion to the person."

... on SEX 

What makes sex good: "You have to have a good sense of humor because things can and will go wrong - LOL I love good kissing - that is crucial for me. I like my back rubbed too. It relaxes me. Communication is crucial here. Body compatibility is important because sometimes, bodies simply just don't fit right together at times. I don't take sex lightly. It works better for me when I'm in a relationship. But a 'nooner' occasionally works for me too!"

I feel my sexiest when ... "when I'm dancing around my bedroom, in my cute underwear to old school 70's or dance music. Hopefully not secretly being watched although I probably had been. On a summer's day or night on the beach with my sundress on. And looking over the city at night with all the lights on with a sexy guy by my side."

Most sensual part of a man's body: "I like hands! I also like the neck and upper chest part. I like to smell a man's neck and it's a plus if he's wearing good cologne."

Sexiest thing a man can wear in private: "Nothing at all."

Surefire way for a man to seduce me: "By taking the lead and make it work - planning the dinner - either making it himself, or finding the place, yummy deserts, mood music, candles, slow dancing after dinner. Be creative guys - woman or at least I do, appreciate that effort you make."

... on LIFE

Making my mark: "By being the best person I can be."

Responsibility to society: "I believe people need to help each other and be more understanding to problems. I survived Katrina and I saw the good, bad, and ugly side of human life during that time. Some people, through physical or mental handicaps, can't help themselves at times and they need our help. Help can be volunteering, donations, or simply asking them what you can do to help. Just talking to someone can brighten their life."

Valuable life lesson: "That there are some bad people out there and not everyone has your best interest at heart."

I must ... "get married, obtain my own home, and travel as much of the world as I can."

Best advice received: "Probably to be yourself."

Best advice I've given a man: "Don't tell someone you love them when you don't - It's not fair to you or the other person."

... on HER FAVORITE THINGS

Movie: "I like all kinds - foreign, comedies - Johnny Stecchino, The Godfather, 9.5 Weeks, Shampoo, Goodfellas, Natural Born Killers, Saturday Night Fever, My Big Fat Greek Wedding."

TV Show: "How I Met Your Mother, 2.5 Men, CNN, Oprah, Swingtown when it was on, Life on Mars, Sex and the City."

Book: "I have several that I liked: Intensity by Dean Koontz, Somewhere off the Coast of Maine by Ann Hood, Weekend in Paris by Robin Sisman. I love to read and I've read so many, it's hard to pick favorites."

Music: "All kinds - Nine Inch Nails, 70's rock like Aerosmith, Bad Company, The Eagles, old school funk like Sly and the Family Stone, The Doors, Classical, Disco. I like some Techno. 80's stuff like Duran Duran."

Food: "I'm not a good cook, but I enjoy all kinds of food, and I like to try different places to eat - Italian, French, Chinese, some sushi, Thai."

... final THOUGHTS

Wheels: "I drive a Honda Accord - I love that car!"

Pets: "I have a Hemmingway kitty named Lucy Liu - named after the actress and the late great queen of comedy - Lucille Ball."

Tattoos/piercings: "No tattoos, I have a belly ring."

Items always in my refrigerator: "Milk, OJ, soda, and beer, eggs - you can make a quick meal with them."

Hottest possession: "I guess my photos - they have so many memories for me."

I'd change places for 24 hours with ... "Oprah Winfrey - she's a great humanitarian."

I'd most like to hang out with ... "any famous person  just to see what their lives were really like. It probably would surprise me."

Celeb I'd love to go on a date with: "All my friends tease me about my "crush" on Trent Reznor and he's got green eyes - lol."

Why I'm a great catch: "I am a sincere, honest person who would never mislead anyone. If someone is looking for that in a mate, I'm her! I would stick by someone through the good and bad times in life."

Me in a word: "Unconventional (in a good way)."