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Reed
"I absolutely want to be married," says 35- year-old Reed. "There's nothing more valuable than having a partner who is not only your best friend but
someone who knows the goofball side of you that you would never show anybody
else." This 5'11" writer/producer/real estate investor who also sings and writes music
believes in love at first sight and that dreams can come true. His greatest
strength: "I am constantly positive, no matter what, to the point where it
annoys people. I never say `I can't.'" What makes a woman unforgettable to
this blue-eyed bachelor "A beautiful smile and a wonderful laugh."
Born: Seattle, WA
Resides: Los Angeles, CA
Birthdate/Sign: August 4, 1970 (Leo)
Height: 5'11"
Hair: Dark blonde
Eyes: Blue
Nationality: Purebred Norwegian
Family: 1 sister
Never married, no kids
Occupation: Actor/writer/producer/real estate
investor.
Commercials: AT & T, 800collect, Saturn, Infinity, Lexus, Radio Shack.
Celebrity Connection: Worked with Damon Wayans and Ed (Married with Children)
on the lifeguard and alien 800collect commercials.
Being a calendar boy: (Reed was featured in the filmcrew
2000 calendar). "That wasn't my first time. I did a series of
calendars a couple years ago."
Reed is a man who ...: "believes that dreams come true."
Special Talents: "I sing and write music. My music is country but I've
noticed a lot of my country is trying to be jazz."
Best Qualities: "I'm an honest, loving, giving man. I would have to add that
I'm passionate and relentless when it comes to what I want. I won't give up."
Strengths: "I cannot ever not be positive. I am constantly positive, no matter
what, to the point where it annoys people. I get so fired up about people who
are excited and people who are positive. There's this one thing I learned that
says, `You should be the most positive, happy person that you know. And if you're
not, make some changes.' So I try to be the most positive, happy person that
I know. I was always leaning towards that. I mean I've always been a happy
person. I've always been very aware of other people feelings so I've never
hurt anybody's feeling purposely. There's very few things that get me riled,
because I don't give it that power. I just won't give up my power to anybody. I don't
care what you're doing, I'm not going to give it to you."
Weakness: "Beautiful, blond women and gadgets. As positive as I am, the thing
that I've lacked in my life is action. I can talk a really big game, no
matter what it is but in the past I've lacked the actual action that makes
the dreams possible. What I'd love to do, I should be doing already but I'm
not doing it because I have not taken those crucial, critical action steps that I needed to take. I just kind of talked about them albeit I looked good talking about them.
Nobody would ever disagree with me. That's the one thing that I've been
really working on changing because I know I can achieve whatever I want just like anybody else can. But it's the people who take the little baby steps every day that do it whereas it's the people who have more talent than they know what to do with that don't make it for the reason that
they're sitting there talking about it. And I tell my friends all
the time, `look, are we going to do this thing or are we going to talk about
it. We're talkers, all we do is talk. I don't want to see talk, I want to see
some action."
Interests: "Writing, entertainment, movies, jazz music, country music. I also
love sports. I wanted to be a pro baseball player. I've skydived and bungeed jumped. I
have a 1966 Chris Craft boat and I love working on my boat. It's very
therapeutic to me. I love spending my time with my close personal friends,
hanging out, smoking cigars."
What touches my soul: "Again, I have to go back to dreams. I love when
people
talk to me and tell me what they really want, that gets me. I love saying any
kind of word of encouragement, just being there to have them share with me
like I'm important enough for them to tell me what's most important in their
lives, that really gets me going."
Attention-getters: "First of all. no matter what, a physical
presence is what opens my eyes. Once I start talking to people there's other
things that obviously turn me on, but what really catches my eye is a
physical presence. I love long hair, although short hair can look wonderful
on some women. I love a nice athletic type of a body. Someone who likes to
work out, likes to be in shape, someone who is very aware of what they look
like and takes pride, that's what catches my eye. And a sundress, forget
about it. I can honestly say a physical beauty will catch my eye but unless
you have something to talk about, unless you have a dream and are really
going after it, I'm not attracted. I'm attracted to people who, like myself,
love something and will do everything to get it. That's incredibly
attractive. That's beautiful to me."
On dating: "I'll date different women but I'm the kind of guy that if I don't
see any interest in the girl, I don't want to go any further. I don't date
for recreation or for fun. When I date somebody, I either like them or I
don't. And if I don't like them then I'm not going to waste either of our
times. I'm more of a long term guy. I know right away. I'll date someone for
maybe a month or so and then if I don't see it working then I'll get out of
it."
On marriage: "I absolutely want to be married. I think that there's nothing
more valuable than having a partner that not only is your best friend,
someone who you can talk to but someone who knows the goofball side of you
that you would never show anybody else. They're your friend but they're also
your most intimate lover. They literally know everything about you."
Love at first sight: "I believe in love at first sight. Unfortunately many
people don't experience love at first sight because they are too busy
screwing around, that they don't allow the space for that to happen. If you're dating as many people as you can, you're not interested, you're just trying to date to date
then you never create the space for the right person to come into your life.
In other words you don't attract that person to you because you're so muddled
and confused. It's like your water's cloudy so that the nice clear fish can't
see you. So your little fish is cruising around in cloudy water.
Whereas if
you're very clear in what you want, and maybe that means you have to be by
yourself, but when that fish comes, boy, do you see her/him. You're right
there."
On kids: "I would never put a time limit that I would have to have kids by
because I'm very spiritual and I think when it's the right time, God's going to let you know that it's the right time. I don't believe in waiting until all the
circumstances are perfect before you have kids. I know I want them. My sister
has four and I love them all. There are certain elements that you have to
achieve first before you have kids, you don't want to have kids and be
worried about feeding, clothing or putting them in school but you
shouldn't wait until you are living in Malibu in a 10 room mansion before
it's time."
Ideal date: "The perfect date would be on my boat, a nice
little harbor
cruise, on a calm ocean day. So we can go out on the ocean, we can coast off
the shore and look at the city lights to a wonderful candlelit dinner with
wine and maybe some fresh fish that I just caught that day and wonderful
conversation with jazz music in the background and ....well, you
know. If it
was a first date, I would say that along with knowing full well that that's
where I wanted it go but not going there. Just having that playful
expectation, desire but then respecting the fact that we're going to get to
know each other first before anything happens. But really knowing that `wow,
I'm really attracted to you' along that whole evening. That would be
wonderful."
Top relationship keys: "Honesty, trust and
communication. I wasn't always a loyal guy. I was the worst. That's why I am the way I am now because
I was the exact opposite. Now I'm a man of my word. The only thing that you
have in this life is your word. So if you're giving your word and you're
breaking it, then you're breaking the only thing that you have and now you
have nothing. It's easier to be committed than it is to not be
committed."
What makes a woman unforgettable: "A beautiful smile and a wonderful laugh.
There's nothing better than making a woman laugh with that full being laugh.
Just really happy."
A woman in a relationship with me can expect ... "honesty. That's where
I'm coming from, I'm going to be honest all the time. She really needs to
ready to be bombarded with positive, happy energy because that's where I want
to come from and that's who I want to surround myself with. Now granted I'm
not always Mr. Happy Go Lucky but when I'm not I hope that the person I'm with can say `wait a second, what's up with you today, this is not you, shift.' She can expect to have fun. I'm spontaneous, I like to do different things.
I don't really like sameness. I love to be in the not knowing of life. I like
to go and explore and discover together. I want to do things all the time
that both of us don't know what's coming so we can both experience whatever
it is, whether it's bad or good or interesting."
What I expect: "In a relationship, I absolutely expect it to be positive and
happy. I expect it to be a learning, growing experience. I expect each day of
the relationship to be better. If it's not, then I take the responsibility to
say `ok, what am I not doing, what can I do different?' I expect a
relationship not to be stagnant. I expect it to be growing and creative
because that's who I am. If I didn't learn something today, then I wasn't
watching because there's something to learn every day even in a relationship.
If that relationship hasn't grown today, it's not a little bit better, I
haven't said I love you or given a massage, or I haven't gone out of my way
to give, then something's wrong."
Ideal woman: "She must be happy, love to laugh, have fun, spontaneous. Number
1 on the list, she has got to be open-minded. A woman has to be willing to
try and do anything. I've dated women who are very close-minded and unwilling
to try new things or go a new place because they know or they don't want to
do it because they don't like that, that's so unattractive to me. She has to
be independent. I love women who have their own aspirations, dreams and
things that they want to achieve. I'm so goal driven that I have a lot of
things that I want to achieve and I don't want a woman who is a cheerleader.
I want somebody who has their own set of goals and aspirations and really
wants to go out there and achieve and I get to come along and be a part of
that just like she gets to be a part of mine."
Me, a deserted island and ...: "my future wife."
Turn ons: "Laughter, beautiful smiles, a happy person, nature, sunsets,
listening to the rain."
Turn offs: "People who talk about themselves, negative people, egomaniacs,
complaining."
What makes me a great catch: "Because I've got it going on. (laughs) My
attitude is the greatest catch of all. On top if this attitude, I have some
wonderful goals that I'm going after and with an attitude like mine, I can't
help but achieve the goals that I desire. I've been blessed with this great
vehicle to travel through life with which is me so I do my best to try to
take care of myself and keep myself healthy. I have a couple great parents
who gave me who I am physically and through them, my closest friends and
experiences, I've managed to come out who I am emotionally and
spiritually.
And I think it's an unbeatable combination."
I wish women understood ... "that men, for the most part, are bozos. That they don't really really inside
mean what they say and do. Men are bozos, they're dorks. They put on so many
masks and fronts and games, `I'm cool and look at my car.' They know it
doesn't mean anything. Every single guy wants to be in a loving
monogamous,
wonderful relationship. Every single guy does. They screw it up by lying,
cheating, putting on a front because by doing all these things they're
gaining the affection of another male. Men, I think, more than anything need
to be loved by both women and men. I think that #1 a women needs to just
laugh at a guy and understand that he's a dork, #2 they need to
accept the
guy for the dork that he is and they need to do their own thing, not rely on
the guy, not hope for the guy, you need to not even need the guy, don't even
want the guy, and the guy will be at your doorstep throwing rose petals
begging for you to give him an ounce of attention."
Movie: "I love things that move me, I don't have a favorite movie, I
have favorite moments. The English Patient, Titanic."
Book: "The Way of the Peaceful Warrior."
Wheels: "Montera 4 x 4 truck and a boat, a classic '66 Cris Craft."
Pets: " A puppy named Annie."
Secret fantasy: "I have many. All my secret fantasies I believe can come
true. One of them is to fly to my deserted island in the Greek Isles and be
alone with the person I love."
Always in my refrigerator: "Cold beer, beverages."
Making my mark: "I can tell you
absolutely how it
will be. I am going to be the next entertainment powerhouse. I'm going to
write, produce, direct and star in feature films. I'm also going to perform
and sing in the music arena too. Movies and music."
Responsibility to Society: "I believe when God has given you talent to do
anything, it's your responsibility to develop the talent to the best that you
can possibly do and to share it or have the opportunity to share it with the
rest of the world. Whether they want to listen to it, watch it, whatever is
up to them but to have it on a plate in front of them is your
responsibility."
Valuable life lesson: " Dream big and dream often every day."
What I try to get out of life every day: "What I try to learn from life is
that a lot of times I can really kind of close off myself and be overly
focused on `this is what I have to do and I can do it by myself. Leave me alone, I just need to do this.' And I think that life offers you the opportunity every single day to meet somebody new and to learn something about another human being. Every single day there's an
opportunity for you to expand your life experience by reaching out to another
person. I know for myself, but I know this happens to other people, a lot of
times we just avoid it. There's a perfect opportunity to talk to a total
stranger, say hello, smile, eye contact, even something as simple as that and
I know, myself included, but a lot of people that watch just avoid it like
the plague. Like an alien is going to attack you and suck your brain out if
you smile at somebody. I think it's a fear of what people think. I know for a fact
that I have not smiled at a guy because I don't want him to think that I'm digging on him. Or
I see a great looking girl, but instead of smiling my smile and saying hi, so
many of us, myself included, will look away. What's that all about? You want
to meet her. You look away, Oh I'm cool. That's stupid. We're all bozos."
Three things I must do in this lifetime: "I must star in a movie, I have to
have a loving marriage (I want to have my 50th anniversary and look at my
wife and say `I love you more today than I did 50 years ago') and
I have to
have kids and be a great parent."
Best advice I've received: "I think the best advice I've ever received is no
advice. It's a question. When I have a problem and ask what am I going to do?
I want an answer and my best friend looks at me and he says `I don't know.
What are you going to do?' Every single time I ever needed an answer he'd
pose the question right back to me and I figured it out. Everybody else in
life wants to give you the answer and it's always something you probably
already know. So for me to seek advice knowing the answer and for my best
friend to say to me `I don't know, what is the answer?' and for me to have to
actually dig deeper inside and come up with an answer, that's good
advice."
I would change places for 24 hours with ... "I have to say first
that I never would want to give up myself. I have an outstanding life. I
wouldn't want to change my thing for anything. But in today's world I think
it would be amazing to be Michael Jordan or Mark McGuire. To be the best of
all time at a particular professional sport would be unbelievable."
Me in a word: "Passionate."
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